Some thoughts on Intimacy in Virus Time
One of my basic beliefs about humanity is that we crave an experience we share with another, or others, which we call intimacy. I also believe that as much as we crave it, we fear it and flee from it. Yes, I know, there is that small group within the mass of humanity who prefer […]
Thank you, Joseph.
Forty two years ago, give or take a month or so, I, an ever so slightly qualified psychotherapist, encountered my first clients, a Hispanic boy named Joseph and his mother. He had a serious school phobia, a condition about which I knew absolutely nothing. He spoke little or no English, nor did his mother. We […]
What is Honesty?
Is any human being ever completely honest? Is it within human capability to be ‘completely honest’? That is, to leave nothing out, and add nothing in? The lie is an attempt to create an advantage for oneself in the world. We lie actively by communicating that we possess something that the other wants, or don’t […]
Further Developments in Business Development
Business Development: Part I Business Development Part II When we left off in june, we were discussing business development, and i plan to continue here today. the last topic touched on had to do with how to react after you have done the following: 1-scheduled a meeting with a prospect 2-gathered information on what services that […]
Business Development : Part II
Business Development Part I So, you’ve made your list of existing business, made appointments to get together with those who are inactive, have done research on their companies and latest developments in their industries, have sat down and made direct, personal contact with them, informed them of what you’ve been learning about upcoming changes and […]
What is Business Development?
Some answers: “It’s something you do when you don’t have anything else to do-like surf your auctions on ebay, or update your facebook account”. “It’s something that some people are really good at, and some aren’t.” (if this is anything like your answer, you are probably also secretly relieved that you are not like the […]
More Crossing the Line: When You Get in Bed w/Clients…
When you get in bed with a client, you get screwed every time. I can think of no better reason than this to stay on the right side of the line. Usually, when the topic of ‘dual relationships’ is discussed, there is a kind of moralizing, Just say no, Shame, Shame attitude that develops. It’s […]
Crossing ‘The Line’ With Clients
We all have them, and our livelihoods depend on them- they are our clients (etymology– a client is one who ‘leans on another’) The client is one who has willingly created a paid dependency on another based on expertise that one does not have and which the other does. There is a line in this […]
The Stopping Point is the Starting Position
One Friday you were working on a detail section of an exit stair, your third of the past week and your fortieth of your architectural career. You were trying to keep your head in the drawing, keeping your focus sharp, but you can’t help but feel the general sense of unrest in the office. Two […]
What is your true value?
Having recently experienced the suicide of someone close to me, I am mindful of certain things. I will not speculate on his motives–who can know what passes through the mind of the suicidal in those last few moments when there is still time to rescue an entire future, and spare family and friends enormous suffering? […]
